Shirly Oh is the co-founder of Satya Yoga where she teaches yoga full time and more recently as a Holistic Health Coach who works with women to overcome emotional eating, addictions and cravings. She believes every woman deserves to live a fulfilling and purposeful life they love! Her motto – life is too short to not do something you love or take risk.

Why build a happiness tribe?

Happiness is contagious and everything in life seems to magnify in size when we share our joy and happiest moments with others, even strangers. How we define happiness is subjective – Academic results, personal achievements, material possessions, career advancement, spiritual connections, newborn, marriage, travel, retirement, freedom etc.

The point is we want to share. We want others to feel our joy and success. We want to be acknowledged that we have achieved something meaningful and worthy. Social media has made it so easy for people to share information. We share likes, comments, forward messages and get excited with the attention on the post.

It is only human nature to desire for connection and company. We thrive when there is group cohesiveness and support.



One of my students said she is more focused when she does yoga practice on her own. A group setting is challenging for her. She gets distracted easily and finds herself off balance at times. The truth is we are codependent on one another most of the time so it is important to decide who gets in your happiness tribe.

What qualities are you looking for?

Be very specific and clear about the qualities of your tribe members. Don’t settle for less than you desire because this may result in conflicts and blaming game in the later part. Make sure you display the same or complementing qualities that you desire.

Quality versus quantity

Decide on how many tribe members you desire and opt for a few like-minded ones than getting a few dozen wrong ones. The quality of your tribe members will greatly amplify your happiness vibration! Sometimes we may need to let go of tribe members who no longer fit in or leave a tribe when you have outgrown it. Perhaps it is a change of focus, lifestyle, commitments and personality.

Share and grow together

Make it a point to help one another grow and add value by displaying your unique strengths and skill sets. Share with your tribe when you see something useful and valuable. Agree to disagree to encourage learning and growth. Sometimes we may miss our own blind spot so having prior agreement to speak honestly and truthfully without judgement is a way showing loving support.

Having a supportive tribe will be immensely valuable to help you expand and grow in various ways when you communicate openly about your needs and desires. Happiness is a choice that we have to make consciously to allow our life bloom and flourish in the way we want.